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Under Attack…

I’m quite shook by this actually. I saw it over a week ago now, but decided I’d wait to voice anything, it has stuck with me all through this week, and I couldn’t stop thinking about it, so here it is, me voicing something;

So, there is a tumblr post, that is currently being shared on Facebook, which basically states that asexuality (demisexual in particular) does not exist. I read it through curiosity and came away from it angry. Angry at the post, especially angry at the person who shared the post, I thought about it all night, then when I woke up I found that the Asexual Group I am apart of had made itself a closed group instead of an open page. When I looked further into this I found out it was because people  were joining the page to make fun of and abusing the asexual community on there.

I am both disgusted and angry by this.

Now I understand that the LGBT community feels as if us asexuals don’t have it as hard as they do, I mean who has ever been kicked out for not wanting to have sex..? But, equally, when you come out as gay, or lesbian, bisexual people know what that is, oh you like the same sex, oh you like the opposite sex, oh you like both sexes when you come out as asexual, I’ve found the first response is What? followed, after an explanation by but how can you not want sex. Which, honestly I find quite hard to answer, I mean, I’ve never wanted sex, How Can You Want Sex? but this is not all.

You still get made fun off.

There is still people who don’t understand and don’t accept.

There are still people who suggest that you haven’t found the right person, or that you haven’t had good enough sex yet.

Aphobia exists.

There are 43,833 people in the Asexual group.

Asexuality is valid.

Just because you don’t understand it, or you don’t want to believe it doesn’t make it go away.

I’d recommend four books, two my own, one my friends and one amazing,
The Asexual Equation
Ely, Jesse and Robin’s Guide to Asexuality
Numinous by Finlay Harper
How to be a Normal Person by TJ Klune

 

R.J.

 

 

 

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I was having a chat with a friend.

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And it was about Caitlyn Jenner, like most of the population, it was about her recent comment to the lovely Ellen.

Of course, I have to state, I do not agree with her statement, and I think it’s terrible, but what interested me was my friends reaction which was ‘But she’s part of LGBT, she has to accept it’ and I thought, God I wish that was true.

I understand why she thought that, like, I do get it, but sometimes I feel it couldn’t be further than the truth if we tried.

Being asexual, I have witnessed this, other members of the LGBTQA+ community not accepting my sexuality as valid which really sucks, because I accept theirs, but unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. It intrigues, and I think saddens me at the same time, because how can someone who’s gone through being different and coming out, shun someone else for being different and coming out. It’s as hard for both people, whether they are gay, bisexual, trans*, asexual, pansexual, or whatever they may be.

We don’t need to be hating on each other, we need to be supporting, but I also think we’re a long way, away from that.

R.J.

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Why I find it hard to write what I am!

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So I was thinking and I discovered that I find it difficult to write Asexual books even though I am asexual myself. Why? It’s simple.

I write romance.

I am FULLY aware that Asexual people can feel romantic feelings for other people and I have shown that in Ely, Jesse and Robin’s Guide to Asexuality, in this book there is a homosexual relationship (with sex included), a heterosexual relationship (with a limit of kissing) and an aromantic asexual who has a better relationship with his laptop! So, I know how to write a romantic asexual, but I still manage to find it somewhat difficult to do. My first attempt of a non-romantic asexual book was The Asexual Equation where Jake the anxious asexual doesn’t have one romantic thought enter his head, sure there is romance around him but he, himself never wants to experience it – although does willingly undertake his best friends biology experiments to help determent asexuality.

Recently, I’ve been writing a lot of asexual minor characters, who are a constant presence in the book but are not the main focus. However I am writing another asexual MC to come out at some point in 2016, he is a non-romantic asexual but is trying to adopt as he wants a family! It’s my first attempt at an adult asexual which has been very interesting to try and even more personal as I myself am starting to head that way.

R.J.

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Adding More on Later!

I’d say a plus about Self-Publishing is that you can go back and edit the document and just sort of republish it within a blink of a eye! A plus for say authors like me who after publishing a book (even as far as last February) has a burning idea and just has to write more on it!

So I am.

Hopefully before the release of my first 2015 book Prince’s Tale, I will be adding to two of my 2014 books!

The first is Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairies although I love the story and feel that it’s told how I’d like it to be, I have decided to add a new chapter, a new chapter 2 where in it Billy and Max enter into a ballet competition!

The second is Ely, Jesse and Robin’s Guide to Asexuality, which when reading it recently I decided it just wasn’t finished yet, so alas it will be finished!

R.J.

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The Day After Christmas Sale!

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Boxing Day (Day after Christmas) Sale! All books on Amazon.co.uk are 99p and on Amazon.com are €1.99!

Only until midnight tonight!

R.J.

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Spotlight Book!

In the spotlight is Ely, Jesse and Robin’s Guide to Asexuality

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Ely, the 15 year old, Portuguese, gay, Jehovah’s Witness. Jesse, the 15 year old, son of two fathers. Robin, the 16 year old, son of Foster Carers. All three of them are completely different yet all exactly the same. All three are asexual. All three are doing their GCSE’s. And All three have a discussion to make. When is it time to grow up?

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Spotlight Book!

In the spotlight is The Asexual Equation

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The anxious asexual Jake Logan is the main focus of his biologist best friend’s experiment but Harvey’s experiment brings up feelings for Jake and instead of focusing on his experiment, the boys go on a journey to find the source of Jake’s anxiety which means a four hour drive across the country to go and see his dad.

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365Challenge!

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I have a 2015 challenge! To write a drabble every day of the year then publish them all on January 1st 2016! Terrifying!

I currently have 73/365 chosen and a firm idea for at least 68 of them.

It’ll be a year of prequels and sequels and missing scenes. There’ll be first meetings, first times, last times, dramatic reveals, sad scenes, happy scenes, weddings, engagements, children. Everything will be thrown into the next 365 days!

 

Bring on 2015!

 

R.J.

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